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They find that they're not so good at it. What tends to be difficult is the walking away and not caring. There's a social contract to the hookup-students know they're supposed to walk away not caring. You're supposed to walk away emotionally unscathed. Two: it's brief-anything from ten minutes to a whole night. It might involve heterosexual intercourse or homosexual intercourse, or it might just be kissing. Some people assume "hookup" means heterosexual intercourse, but that's not the case. Three criteria I heard from students were that, one, it involves sexual intimacy-anything from kissing to sex. Even though most students will say they think a hookup can be good, the culture of hooking up is causing a lot of struggle and ambivalence, and that worries me. This is where I need to come in, sit and listen to them, and try to respond if I can. When I see them depressed or ambivalent or second-guessing themselves-that sends a red flag. When my students are happy, empowered, feeling good about themselves, and their self-esteem is high, I don't worry. Why do you think campus hookups are something we should be concerned about? Given current hookup culture, young people need to ask themselves: What does sex mean to me? They're living in the midst of hookup culture and struggling with it, but it doesn't seem to occur to them or anyone around them to ask questions about sex.

I have a background in philosophy of religion and gender studies, and when we talk of "ends," it's about ends in themselves, the purpose or meaning or "end" of something. I was thinking of it as a provocative way to talk about the meaning or purpose of sex. What I never intended to say with that title is that sex is over, or anything like that. Your book is titled The End of Sex, but college students you spoke to seem to have plenty of sex- just not always in connection with meaningful relationships. I spoke with her on the phone about why hookup culture is the only option on college campus and why the biggest losers are, surprisingly, young men.

Michael's College and is the author of several books. Author of the new book The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused About Intimacy, Freitas taught at Boston University, Hofstra University, and St. But what she sees is a hookup culture that leaves students empty. Donna Freitas wants college students to get serious about good sex.